Victom or Victor?  To be under, to be over, or to be beside?  To be beneath, or to see from above?  Where am I?  Where are you?

On the scale of emotions, guilt and shame are the lowest.  They’re the states that can keep us depressed, apathetic, under the covers, seeking numbness and wishing we just didn’t have to be here.   We rise up from that terribly depressive state to anger. Anger is a step up.  We raise our vibrational output when we let our feelings be known and  express ourselves even if it’s Ugly!

From there we move up the emotional vibrational scale to blame.  ’I'm angry, and I’m directing it   Out There!…. to those responsible for MAKING me as I AM gosh darn it!!’

It IS a step up, and an important one.  It’s two steps up from serious depression and apathy and shame and guilt, and one step up from feeling enraged at what has/is going on.   But it’s still quite a distance from the feelings of contentment, joy, peace and equanimity that are the highest and most pleasurable states.

I was surprised when I realized a few years ago how much ‘victimization’ language was going on in my mind.   ‘Life is too hard.’ ‘I feel so stuck.’  ’If they hadn’t/this wasn’t/etc……’

Recognizing the language we use as we talk to ourselves and others is illuminating.  Although it is very important to allow ourselves and others to progress through the emotional stages in order to reach happiness, it’s also important for our personal health and happiness  to not live our lives perpetually at the lower levels of the emotional scale;  shame/guilt/depression, anger, blame.

STEP ONE:  Recognize and admit where we are at.

Am I complaining, blaming or placing my attention on ANYTHING outside of myself and using those things as an excuse to get mad or hurt and to stay in a place where I’m unhappy?  That is playing the victim.    Using  anything or anyone as an excuse for not realizing my dreams and my highest state of love, peace and joy is self inflicted victimization.

Many might shout ‘Not ME! Are you serious?  I’m not a victim!  Look at me!  ROAR! I’ll rip you up!  I’ll tell the neighbors/government/banks/parents/’friends’/kids/boss/etc.etc what THEY should do! and if they don’t, well, I’m just *#@^&!  and there’s nothing I can do about it because they/he/she/it is and are running the world, and I am living in THAT world”         Whoa!  There’s the anger and blame, and there’s that victim!  Who runs your world?  ONLY YOU!

The idea that a victim is a weak, sappy, put upon doormat is not as often the case as is the victim which is in an endless state of attack and defense.    It is our idea of what strength truly is and what the feeling of personal empowerment truly feels like that must be adjusted.

True personal power is the stamina to remain calm, in control, rational and at peace regardless of what is going on around or ‘to’ us.    Strength is an unwavering stature of righteousness that is compassionate and humble, true to principles of goodness and kindness and still open to listening to others points of view.  It is free from blame, free from complaints of any kind, free from self abasement and criticism and free being tossed around by every occurrence that is experienced.   True power is a very peaceful thing.  It is HAPPINESS!  It needs no defense, because it cannot be stolen.  There are no ‘enemies’ or ‘antagonists’ because there is a knowledge of full self responsibility for every thought, reaction, emotion and experience.  It feels really go-oo-od!

Victim or Victor?   When we realize it is ONLY ourselves we must conquer (and we do this conquering with pure and unconditional love)  we realize that a ‘Victor’ need not imply a ‘Victim’.   In the state of perfect self acceptance and love,  a winner needs not a loser a winner empowers more winners.  We’re finally free to let go of the need to place the blame anywhere but upon our own previous misunderstanding of who we truly are – an Amazing, Wonder-full, Loved, Perfect, Well Planned, Deliberate, and Divine expression in human form.  Our lives have been EXACTLY as they should have been.  We are denied nothing for any reason that is outside of ourselves.

We forgive, we let go, we come to terms, we extend a hand.  We breath and share the air and we reach out to touch and feel the sense of comfort and togetherness that is so good.   We yearn and we move forward in this space and time dimension we’ve chosen to partake in, and we are PERFECT.

So, if you have complained – yes you – in any way or shape or form – make the choice to move your address from ‘Victim Lives Here’ to ‘Peace Lives Here’.    It’s happiness we’d all like, right?  Well, this is a move in that direction.  Take the step with me! Congratulations to us!  We are  ’Victim Graduates’ moving ever closer to sustained peace, kindness, really deep and true self-love and the supreme realization of EVERLASTING JOY!

Joan Marie

Archangel Jophiel is noted as the Angel of Beauty.  Whether in our surroundings, our creations or our inner landscape, this Angel is the one to call on to beautify anything in your life.  Heed the ideas and directives that come as you call on this energy for relationships, for thoughts, for living.

The beautification of our thoughts in regard to any situation creates more beauty in our experiential lives.  Remembering that beauty is a pleasurable exaltation of the mind or spirit, it’s just what we need at those times when we are down on ourselves, in a state of stress, worry, or  helplessness.   Ask the amazing energetic presence of Jophiel to assist you in altering your thoughts and perceptions about yourself and your life experience.  Shame and guilt, two of the lowest vibrational emotions, can be transformed by the realization that all is well, that we are a growing and expanding and learning spirit meant to have had this variety of experiences.

Now, turn and look upon joy.  Contemplate peace.  Meditate on the beauty that does exist in your life as you open your eyes to it. Do not dismay at your hurts or seeming shortcomings.  These are all a part of your beautiful self which is a full spectrum being. When thoughts of worry, guilt or ugliness arise, ask yourself – Is this what I want more of??  No! Call on Jophiel to assist you in bringing in the thoughts that create more beauty, joy, pleasure and peace in your life.

After reading the following prayer, close your eyes and allow the beautifying energy of Jophiel to enfold your being:

Archangel Jophiel, I ask for your energetic presence to come into my auric field, my mind, my heart.  I see the sparkling energy of deep rose pinks flowing around me as you come.  I surrender any thoughts that bring me down.  I surrender and choose instead to focus on beauty within me; on all of my wonderful attributes; on my request and promised fulfillment of love and peace within.   Let me feel this fulfillment in my heart and mind and energetic field right now.   I feel thankful appreciation for your wonderful presence and I listen to your reminders to love and accept myself just as I am as I embrace myself as a divine creation.   In appreciation and love, I invite and allow you to flow in now.

Given the foundational principal that we are self responsible – completely accountable for all that we have experienced – it is to ourselves that we must offer the most important forgiveness.    Self responsibility opens us to the truth that all things we have experienced bear gifts, mirror our inner beliefs and feelings about ourselves, and balance our development of compassion.  This truth can carry us through processes of helplessness, blame, and anger  into acceptance, peace and strength.  Honesty, when coming from a place of love, guides us to ‘make right’ anything that involves other individuals.

Forgiveness is freedom.  Peace.

As you look within your life, allow any areas of un-forgiveness towards yourself or others to surface that it might be washed away. Ask to be shown peace.  You deserve it.